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ENFJs are the benevolent ‘pedagogues’ of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it’s usually not meant as manipulation — ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.

ENFJs are global learners. They see the big picture. The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. Many ENFJs have tremendous entrepreneurial ability.

ENFJs are, by definition, Js, with whom we associate organization and decisiveness. But they don’t resemble the SJs or even the NTJs in organization of the environment nor occasional recalcitrance. ENFJs are organized in the arena of interpersonal affairs. Their offices may or may not be cluttered, but their conclusions (reached through feelings) about people and motives are drawn much more quickly and are more resilient than those of their NFP counterparts.

ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.
TRADEMARK: “The first shall be last”
This refers to the open-door policy of ENFJs. One ENFJ colleague always welcomes me into his office regardless of his own circumstances. If another person comes to the door, he allows them to interrupt our conversation with their need. While discussing that need, the phone rings and he stops to answer it. Others drop in with a ‘quick question.’ I finally get up, go to my office and use the call waiting feature on the telephone. When he hangs up, I have his undivided attention!

Functional Analysis:
Extraverted Feeling
Extraverted Feeling rules the ENFJ’s psyche. In the sway of this rational function, these folks are predisposed to closure in matters pertaining to people, and especially on behalf of their beloved. As extraverts, their contacts are wide ranging. Face-to-face relationships are intense, personable and warm, though they may be so infrequently achieved that intimate friendships are rare.
Introverted iNtuition
Like their INFJ cousins, ENFJs are blessed through introverted intuition with clarity of perception in the inner, unconscious world. Dominant Feeling prefers to find the silver lining in even the most beggarly perceptions of those in their expanding circle of friends and, of course, in themselves. In less balanced individuals, such mitigation of the unseemly eventually undermines the ENFJ’s integrity and frequently their good name. In healthier individuals, deft use of this awareness of the inner needs and desires of others enables this astute type to win friends, influence people, and avoid compromising entanglements.

The dynamic nature of their intuition moves ENFJs from one project to another with the assurance that the next one will be perfect, or much more nearly so than the last. ENFJs are continually looking for newer and better solutions to benefit their extensive family, staff, or organization.
Extraverted Sensing
Sensing is extraverted. ENFJs can manage details, particularly those necessary to implement the prevailing vision. These data have, however, a magical flexible quality. Something to be bought can be had for a song; the same something is invaluable when it’s time to sell. (We are not certain, but we suspect that such is the influence of the primary function.) This wavering of sensory perception is made possible by the weaker and less mature status with which the tertiary is endowed.
Introverted Thinking
Introverted Thinking is least apparent and most enigmatic in this type. In fact, it often appears only when summoned by Feeling. At times only in jest, but in earnest if need be, Thinking entertains as logical only those conclusions which support Feeling’s values. Other scenarios can be shown invalid or at best significantly inferior. Such “Thinking in the service of Feeling” has the appearance of logic, but somehow it never quite adds up.

Introverted Thinking is frequently the focus of the spiritual quest of ENFJs. David’s lengthiest psalm, 119, pays it homage. “Law,” “precept,” “commandment,” “statute:” these essences of inner thinking are the mysteries of Deity for which this great Feeler’s soul searched.
Famous ENFJs:
David, King of Israel
U.S. Presidents:
Abraham Lincoln
Ronald Reagan
Barack Obama

William Cullen Bryant, poet
Abraham Maslow, psychologist and proponent of self-actualization
Ross Perot
Sean Connery
Elizabeth Dole
Francois Mitterand
Dick Van Dyke
Andy Griffith
James Garner
William Aramony, former president of United Way
Gene Hackman (Superman, Antz)
Dennis Hopper (Speed)
Brenda Vaccaro
Craig T. Nelson (Coach)
Diane Sawyer (Good Morning America)
Randy Quaid (Bye Bye, Love; Independence Day)
Tommy Lee Jones (The Fugitive)
Kirstie Alley (“Cheers,” Look Who’s Talking movies)
Michael Jordan, NBA basketball player
Johnny Depp (Pirates of the Caribbean)
Oprah Winfrey
Bob Saget America’s Funniest Home Videos, Full House
Julia Louis-Dreyfus (“Seinfeld”)
Ben Stiller (The Royal Tenenbaums)
Peyton Manning, Indianapolis Colts quarterback
Matthew McConaughey (The Wedding Planner)
Pete Sampras, Tennis Champion
Lauren Graham (“Gilmore Girls”)
Ben Affleck (The Sum Of All Fears)
John Cusack (High Fidelity)
Fictional ENFJs:
Joe Hackett, Wings
Copyright © 2012 by Joe Butt


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ENFJ (excerpt from

Portrait of an ENFJ – Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
(Extraverted Feeling with Introverted Intuition)

The Giver


As an ENFJ, you’re primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ’s main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

Because ENFJ’s people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people’s skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ’s motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them.

ENFJ’s are so externally focused that it’s especially important for them to spend time alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to be hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people. ENFJs tend to define their life’s direction and priorities according to other people’s needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It’s natural to their personality type that they will tend to place other people’s needs above their own, but they need to stay aware of their own needs so that they don’t sacrifice themselves in their drive to help others.

ENFJ’s tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extraverted types. Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they’re likely to refrain from expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they’re likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than as individuals.

Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they’re able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they’re not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person’s need, they are highly likely to value the other person’s needs.

The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.

People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.

ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their home environments.

In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They are naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling. They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.

ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don’t understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they’re forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.

ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.

ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They’re very loyal and trustworthy once involved in a relationship.

An ENFJ who has not developed their Feeling side may have difficulty making good decisions, and may rely heavily on other people in decision-making processes. If they have not developed their Intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and will judge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without really understanding the current situation. An ENFJ who has not found their place in the world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to worry excessively and feel guilty. They are also likely to be very manipulative and controling with others.

In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.



Jungian functional preference ordering:
Dominant: Extraverted Feeling
Auxiliary: Introverted Intuition
Tertiary: Extraverted Sensing
Inferior: Introverted Thinking





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Errors in Thinking (and how to avoid them)

The basic problem – ” Mine is better”

Mine is better :

My house is more expensive

My children are better behaved

My accomplishments are more numerous

My ideas , beliefs and values are more insightful and profound than other peoples


Mine is better tendency is innate


For many people , most of the time, the “mine is better” tendency is balanced by the awareness that other people feel the same way about their things and it is an unavoidable part of being human.


Balance –

Many people realize that we all see ourselves in a special way, different from everything that is not ourselves , and whatever we associate with ourselves becomes part of us in our minds.


People who have this understanding and are reasonably secure and self- confident can control the mine- is – better  tendency


The Problem

  • Some people do not understand/recognize that each person has a special viewpoint
  • For these people, mine is better is not an attitude that everyone has about his or her things
  • Rather it’s a special higher truth about their situation , that others do other individuals or other groups  do not possess
  • Psychologists classify such people as:
  • Egocentric
  • Ethnocentric


Egocentric people –

  • Egocentric  means centered or focused on oneself and only concerned about ones own  interests , needs and views
  • They tend to practice EGOSPEAK (term coined by addeo & berger ) ” The art of boosting our own egos  by speaking only about ourselves

Ego think –

Because egocentric people have very narrow habits of mind you can infer they produce egothink.


Egothink refers to the observation that egocentric people have a very difficult time seeing issues from a variety of  viewpoints.


The world exists for them and is defined by their beliefs and  values




  • Means excessively  centered or focused on  ones group
  • ***excessively****
  • We can all feel a connection or sense of identification with our racial/ethnic group , religion , or culture without being ethnocentric.


We can very well prefer the company of people who share our heritage and perspective over the company of other without being tolerant.


Why? Because the familiar is naturally more comfortable  than the unfamiliar and to pretend other wise is to delude ourselves.


There is a difference


What distinguishes ethnocentric  individuals from those who feel a healthy sense of indentification with their group is that ethnocentric people believe :


  1. That their group is not merely different from other groups but  fundamentally superior to them.
  2. That the motivations  and intentions from other groups are suspect.


These beliefs create bias that blocks critical thinking


The ethnocentric response style :

Mine is better thinking


  • Ethnocentric people are eager to challenge the views of other groups but are UNWILLING TO EVER QUESTION THE VIEWS  OF THEIR OWN GROUP.
  • They acknowledge NO MIDDLE  ground to issues , things are ALL ONE WAY, the way that accords with their groups perspective.
  • Ethnocentric people also tend to form negative STEREOTYPES of other groups


Mine is better  thinking

-Our preference for our own way of thinking can prevent us form identifying  flaws in our own ideas , as well as from seeing and  building on other people’s ideas. For example:


  • Our pride in our own religion can lead us to dismiss to quickly the beliefs and practices  of other religions and  ignore mistakes in our religious history.
  • Our preference for our own political party may make us support less qualified candidates and programs.
  • Our allegiance to our opinions can shut us off from other perspectives, blind us to unfamiliar truths , and enslaves us to yesterdays conclusions.


The most basic problems

Readiness to accept uncritically those who appeal to our preconceived notions leaves us vulnerable to those who would manipulate for their own purposes

  • Historians say this is why Hitler succeeded in taking control of Germany


Gaining control over mine is better thinking .


We must keep in mind that like other people, we too are prone to it , and its influence will be strongest when the subject is one that we really care about.


Be alert of mine is better in YOU-

-signals of mine is better thinking can be found in both our  feelings and in our thinking


In feelings – pleasant and favorable ; the desire or sensation to embrace a statement or argument without evaluating / appraising it further. Or very unpleasant , negative sensations ; the desire to attack and denounce a statement instantly.


In thoughts: Ideas such as “I’m glad that experts are taking such a position that experts are taking such a position -” I’ve thought this all along”   No use in wasting time analyzing this evidence -it must be conclusive.





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Evidence? maybe not!

You should always check  the quality and quantity of the evidence before forming an opinion.

You should also review your evidence before you perform an opinion.

To evaluate your own and other peoples opinions you will need to understand the various kinds of evidence.

This entails knowing the value and limitations of each kind, as well as the appropriate questions to ask.

*good studies have limitations listed

Unpublished reports are stories we hear from people hearsay gossip or on the internet the biggest limitation problem is that it is often difficult to confirm them.

To evaluate an unpublished report ask:

Where did the story originate ?

How can I confirm that the version I heard is the correct one ?

Published report

This kind of evidence exists in a wide variety of published or broadcasted works such as scholarly books, professional journals, newspaper articles, news broadcasts and or radio/TV commentaries

To evaluate a published report ask:

Does the report cite the sources of all important items of information?

Does the author broadcaster have a reputation for careful reporting?

Celebrity testimonials?

Celebrities are increasingly seen endorsing product and services in commercials and infomercials.

To evaluate a celebrity testimonial

Is the celebrity a paid spokesperson?

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November 19, 2012 · 3:54 am

O complex

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November 19, 2012 · 3:52 am

Oh man its me!

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November 19, 2012 · 3:51 am

The ADHD Epidemic

     Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder commonly referred to, as ADHD is one of the most commonly diagnosed conditions of childhood. Attention Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder is composed of three major components: inattentiveness, impulsivity, and motor hyperactivity. Symptoms ADHD include excessive fidgeting with hands or feet, difficulty remaining seated, following through on instructions, difficulty in attempting to play quietly, and excessive interruption of conversations. Attention Deficit/hyperactivity (ADHD) affects a broad range of society with a prevalence rate between 2% and 7% (American Psychiatric Association, 1994). The ADHD prevalence has grown drastically over the last three decades. The rate of drug treatment for behavior problems has increased in the prescription of ADHD drug treatment for children for at least 5 to 6 million American Children annually (Diller, 1998; Sinha, 2001). There are clear indications of over diagnosis and overtreatment in a growing number of communities. This paper provides background information regarding the ADHD epidemic and its treatment.

   According to Bruchmiller, Katrim, (2011), there is some evidence that these increases are associated with changes in ADHD diagnostic criteria that make the condition easier to recognize. “However possible over-diagnosis and overtreatment of ADHD in the United States was recently recognized by the national institutes of Health as an important public health problem” (Gretchen B. Le Fever, 1999). Although only a few studies have addressed the question of over diagnosis, it is considered a rising trend.

   According to the DSM-IV-TR in order to diagnose ADHD six symptoms of inattention and hyperactivity/impulsivity must be present. The onset must occur before 7 years of age, clinically significant impairment must occur in two or more settings, and the symptoms must not be accounted for by another disorder. Could it be that the label is being given out too easily? “There is strong evidence that therapists in their clinical routine do not strictly adhere to the diagnostic criteria of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders” (Bruchmiller, 2011, p.127).

A study in a specialized ADHD clinic showed that examined 92 children showed that only 22% of them were given a diagnosis of ADHD and only 37% was given a secondary diagnosis (Coutono, 1993). In a similar study it was found that among referrals 62% were not confirmed as ADHD cases after further diagnostic evaluation (Wolraich, 1990). These studies suggest that ADHD might, in some cases be over diagnosed.

Controversy has also been noted relating to the prescription of Methylphenidate. Methylphenidate, a Central Nervous Stimulant has been found that Ritalin can produce severe withdrawal symptoms, Irritability, suicidal feelings, headaches and Tourette’s. ADHD slows children down and gives them the appearance of behaving normally, but it does not prevent the cause of problems, does not work for everybody (Breggin, 1995).

The APA has established that methylphenidate is similar to cocaine and amphetamines and that the abuse patterns are similar for these types of drugs. Even after all the negative attention Ritalin is receiving in the neuropharmacology industry, it is still being passed out like some kind of magical fix-it-all candy. Children are being given the schedule II drug; One of the most addictive kind of drugs according to the USDA. “The high prevalence rates suggest that ADHD was over diagnosed and over treated in some groups of children” (Le Fever, 1999, p. 274). Furthermore, according to Novartis, there is no single diagnostic test that can definitively diagnose ADHD in human populations (Novartis, 2006).

  • A checklist of behaviors diagnoses ADHD. The questionnaires answers are limited to 1.Never 2.Rarely 3.Sometimes 4. Often 5.Always. The questions contained in the ADHD assessment questionnaire are also highly subjective, as indicated by the following (Breggin, 1995)
    “Often fidgets with hands and feet” (What is the operational definition of fidgets”?)
  • “Often runs or climbs excessively” (How do we know when running or climbing becomes “excessive”?)
  • “Often has difficulty playing quietly” (What culture expects that children play “quietly”
  • “Often fails to give close attention to details or makes mistakes in schoolwork” (Children are notorious for paying “close attention to that which interests them.) (Stolzer, 2007, p.21).

      One factor that is often not taken into consideration is, whether the tests are measuring adult’s frustrations with the child’s behavior (Baughman, 2006). Other factors are tolerance level, personality type, education, gender, and age of the parent or teacher reporting. The person reporting is usually not under a controlled environment (Carey, 2002). This being said, A diagnosis of ADHD is an excuse for placing the blame on the child, and not focusing on the parents, teachers and specific cultural practice.
        Other Correlates that point to the over diagnosis of ADHD are the economic gains. Not only do the drug companies have financial gain due to this, but also “Under the 1991 amendment to the American with disabilities act, Individual public schools receive additional federal monies for each child that has been diagnosed with a behavioral and/or psychiatric disorder. Clearly stated, the more children who are diagnosed. The more money the individual school receives” (Cohen, 2004,p.345).  This raises the question, are children being diagnosed with ADHD although showing only some symptoms, for financial gain? According to Stolzer, ADHD in America is a big business. You can tell by comparing the numbers of children diagnosed between private and public schools. Public schools receive funding for students with learning disabilities, and typically have higher rates of ADHD diagnosis. Private school diagnostic rates are really low. Private schools don’t receive funding for educating children with learning disabilities.
      The current ADHD model needs improvement and more research in the complex ways growing up in present day America affects life. It needs to address the deeper and more complex behaviors and not focus so much on the use of psychotropic drugs. Humans have evolved from an environment that required hard levels of activity to the sedentary life of sitting on a sofa and playing video games. Is ADHD a reliable and valid diagnosis or an excuse to control undesirable behaviors from children without using discipline and simply using medication? Could this be the problem?
      As a closing statement; much of the evidence mentioned in this paper suggests that there is the possibility of over diagnosis in ADHD. Whether it is for financial gain from the pharmaceutical companies, Poor discipline, subjective testing, economic opportunity for public schools, or just simply the way humans have evolved. This does not mean that the condition ADHD does not exist, it just means that before medicating children, more research and precautions should take place.


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